For a few days we’ve been talking about Tiger Woods on a message board I'm a part of called The Lily Pad, and if he deserves to catch a break, there was a poll and a few answers, it was pretty light hearted until some And I quote….
"Well he's a man and he's part black. neither one can keep their stuff in the pants. No i'm NOT racist my dd is half black, and i'm mexican so i'm allowed to crack on beaners and black's i have a card. lol."
Now… Most of you know that I’m married to a black man, have been for the past 7 years, we also have two bi-racial children, regardless of that fact that statement quoted above has no business ever leaving a persons mouth! I went OFF on the
Members who rarely speak out about things they don’t agree with even spoke up in light of this. I admit I called her a bitch, I used a few choice curse words, I called her ignorant, racist and trash. I was FUMING!!!! NO matter what, statements like that coming out of your mouth are RACIST! And just because you’re part of one minority race, and have a child of mixed race DOES NOT give you the ‘card’ to say such HATEFUL, HURTFUL, DISGUSTING things….
She then retaliated with another post….
"I am sorry if i hurt anyone's feelings u too Gina. I was merely making a statement and You blew it out of proportion. As for calling me a bitch and trash that was totally uncalled for and truly hurt my feelings. I am also not a "troublemaker" (sounds so childish doesn't it?) Look at my posts and see all the "trouble" I cause. As for teaching my child bad stuff, my daughter is the most respectful child, and loves everyone, she lights a room wherever she goes. Oh and she goes to church twice a week , once is a club that has the kids memorize bible verses and do volunteer work.guess that makes me a dumb, trashy bitch doesn't it."
What that has to do with anything I’m not sure….. Church, ok, that’s great I hope she gets much better views than her mother there…..
After her ‘apology’ she then decided to make another lovely statement….
"So ppl can just call each other dumb bitches and that's excused?? I don't care how long she's been on here that was just down right low and dirty. Besides are any of you black males. Everyone go home and ask your bf/husband if he agrees with my statement and i bet you he will. Post a poll on your fb or myspace and i bet you 90% will. If she wouldn't have said anything no one would care."
Way to show your colors… This now gives me 100% belief that you’re really not apologizing and really do think the way you do.
I hate that my daughters have to still grow up in IGNORANCE! I’m sad that at 6 years old and 3 years old I’ve had to already teach them about racism because people like this still breed hate…
I’m sorry that you’ve had a bad run with men, black men, and any men. But honey MOST men CAN keep it in their pants, most black, Latino, white, Asian, pink, purple, blue men CAN keep it in their pants it’s about character, it’s about who they are NOT about RACE….
This spilled over onto today and I’m still FUMING MAD at her statements, I had to get it out…
So what do you think? Any comments on statements like this? I refuse to let myself, my family or my children associate with people who dare to still think like this if I can help it.
19 comments:
I think it would have been simpler for her to have joked "Well he's a man." ... People never cease to amaze me. *shaking head*
lol I just don't even know what to say.. other than my o_O ... It's just such an ignorant comment. You know I try not to get riled up by these sorts of things, because it truly is a waste of time and energy imo. anger won't change the way this chick views the world. we just have to focus on our kidlets and hope that eventually the cycle ends.
la
well you know what I think G - she's the poster child for bigotry and ignorance
It's really sad that people think like that. I think her comment was really shitty...and it cracks me up that she's "making good" with her/her daughters life by going to church. WTF?
On a side note, my husband and I were talking about this issue and he was joking around with me. He said "What, they guy just wants to have a little fun!" To which I replied, "If you'd like to 'have a little fun' be aware that your 'transgression' will be cut off and shoved up your ass.".
The convo quit there! Ha!
that is very sad. I would have been just as pissed as you were. It's so sad that people still are racist and make ignorant statments like that.
Ignorance like that is just plain wrong. She needs a serious smuck upside the head. No sending her kid to church does not make things better or alright. I don't blame you or anyone else for that matter for being pissed off.
Charlene
Wow, just wow. I truly hope that her kids don't have her views when they get older.
As a guy, I'm highly offended by that woman's remark. Because I'm a guy, I can't keep it in my pants? I've done a very nice job of keeping it in my pants so far and plan on doing so for as long as my wife and I are married (which, I hope, is for the rest of our lives).
It's not a male thing (white, black, Jewish, Christian, or whatever), it's a character thing. Yes, there are guys who cheat, but there are also women who cheat. On the other hand, there are many more guys and women who don't cheat.
This woman is pathetic.I intensely dislike racist remarks.If I hear someone make one, well, I tell them how I feel about the remark.
Well, you weren't wrong. That was trashy and bitchy. I notice she said her daughter goes to church. Maybe she could benefit from that herself. My goodness. She seems to think that she's not racist just because she isn't a pale-face. I guess that's what we get for teaching in schools for so many years that only white people are racist. Racism, strangely enough, doesn't discriminate. Apparently, you can even be racist against your own "race". Hmmm.
Incidentally, "race" is not a Christian idea. It's a secular one. Christians believe we were all born from the same two parents, and our genes diverged over the years. We're the human race. Color is incidental, no matter what confusion has arisen from time to time.
I hope her daughter is attending a church that stresses that.
Wow. Just wow. I can't believe she would say something like that, and later try to defend it. I'm sure most of my friends on myspace or wherever WOULD NOT agree with that remark. It's crazy to me that people still think that way.
I'd have been pissed too.
Girl I am so glad its u then me cause you acted way more calm then my ass would have! LOL @ cause he is half black bitch please just cause she has been around dogs don't mean they are all like that. She shouldn't even played the race card either sayin she "can joke like that she has a card" UMM no she dont!! but I would have gave it right back to her..But I wont go there here..UGHHHHH
She is obviously ignorant...if she believes that her behaviour and views doesn't rub off on her child/children. No matter how many days of the week her child goes to church!
She's obviously not very intelligent, if she believes that 90% of men would agree with her statement.
It's just good that stupidity isn't contagious, or else she'd have to be quarantined...
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Sorry you had to deal with that! I would have a difficult time keeping my cool with her.
I think people feel that they can say many things more freely online than they would dare say in person.
There are philanderers of ALL races, nationalities and genders. What Tiger did wasn't because he is black or Thai or male. How ignorant of someone to think otherwise.
spitfyr323 at hotmail dot com
Wow! It's one thing that she said it and an entirely different thing that she even tried to justify what she said. She really doesn't get it and she believes what she says is right and that she has a right to do it. I can't say I am surprised because I don't see that type of thing changing regardless of what some people say. I totally understand why you reacted that way. I know it's easy to say, but try not to let these types of comments make your day gray it's not good for your health... however, I felt like giving mad snaps from your responses to her.
Some people literally just shouldn't be allowed to speak.......she'd be one of them.
I love it when idiots talk bad about Mexicans in front of me so I can watch them backpedal when I proudly say I'm an aunt to a few "beaners". I'd smack a ho/dog, whatever, for any of them anyday, No Question. I think you're right to be mad, I think you were right to tell her off, but I doubt it makes a difference in the long run.
Sort of like my stalker issue. I can gripe about it, scream about it, make fun of her,whatever, but in the end all I really do is give her attention and she never goes away. I wouldn't give this woman anymore a voice than necessary if I were you, these people just don't get it and never will.
Uggghhh! People like that make me so mad! My fiance is black so our future children will be bi-racial. I hate the fact that they may be subjected to the racist remarks of ignorant people!
Someone should be going to church HERSELF instead of sending her daughter! My daughter has a black boyfriend and at 16 they are both faced with so much racism. I breaks my heart to see either one of their feelings hurt. I have already told her that it will make their relationship stronger to deal with it together. But when she cries, I can't even explain the feeling of hopelessness. It makes me want to kick the worlds ass. I have come to learn that you can't rehabilitate a stupid person.
Val
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